Comments on: Lifted Curse http://www.flasshe.com/2004/02/19/lifted-curse/ Life, Minutiae, Toys, Irrational Phobias, Peeves, Fiber Sat, 20 Feb 2010 05:25:21 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8 hourly 1 By: Sue http://www.flasshe.com/2004/02/19/lifted-curse/comment-page-1/#comment-15 Sue Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.flasshe.com/?p=21#comment-15 Rog, this is such happy news. I'm so happy for you and your family, and especially Lori & her kids. Yay! Rog, this is such happy news. I’m so happy for you and your family, and especially Lori & her kids. Yay!

]]> By: Jeff http://www.flasshe.com/2004/02/19/lifted-curse/comment-page-1/#comment-16 Jeff Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.flasshe.com/?p=21#comment-16 That's fantastic - and I suspect it's the sort of thing whose full impact won't be felt for a while. That is, you might have been unaware of how this possibility was lurking beneath any number of other anxieties, or making them worse, and now that this issue's been resolved, those burdens too will be gone. It's certainly good to hear some positive news once in a while! That’s fantastic – and I suspect it’s the sort of thing whose full impact won’t be felt for a while. That is, you might have been unaware of how this possibility was lurking beneath any number of other anxieties, or making them worse, and now that this issue’s been resolved, those burdens too will be gone. It’s certainly good to hear some positive news once in a while!

]]> By: Alan http://www.flasshe.com/2004/02/19/lifted-curse/comment-page-1/#comment-17 Alan Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.flasshe.com/?p=21#comment-17 Great news, I'm glad she finally decided to get tested. This must be a huge relief for everyone in the family. Great news, I’m glad she finally decided to get tested. This must be a huge relief for everyone in the family.

]]> By: Flasshe http://www.flasshe.com/2004/02/19/lifted-curse/comment-page-1/#comment-18 Flasshe Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.flasshe.com/?p=21#comment-18 Thanks, guys! Jeff, you're certainly right about the additional anxities. I know that after my own test was negative, I wasn't as happy or relieved as I should've been, since the issue as a whole wasn't resolved and was still peeking around the corner (especially since that was before my older sister died). It feels good to just relax now and worry about the usual things: cancer, bus accidents, layoffs, TV shows getting canceled... Thanks, guys! Jeff, you’re certainly right about the additional anxities. I know that after my own test was negative, I wasn’t as happy or relieved as I should’ve been, since the issue as a whole wasn’t resolved and was still peeking around the corner (especially since that was before my older sister died). It feels good to just relax now and worry about the usual things: cancer, bus accidents, layoffs, TV shows getting canceled…

]]> By: Miles http://www.flasshe.com/2004/02/19/lifted-curse/comment-page-1/#comment-19 Miles Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.flasshe.com/?p=21#comment-19 Rog, I had no idea about any of this, so I am simultaneously saddened to learn that you'd been living under this cloud (and of the losses you'd suffered) and delighted to learn that it's passed for good. This Snoopy Dance is for you! Rog, I had no idea about any of this, so I am simultaneously saddened to learn that you’d been living under this cloud (and of the losses you’d suffered) and delighted to learn that it’s passed for good. This Snoopy Dance is for you!

]]> By: Flasshe http://www.flasshe.com/2004/02/19/lifted-curse/comment-page-1/#comment-20 Flasshe Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.flasshe.com/?p=21#comment-20 Hi, Miles - thanks! Yeah, it's not the kind of thing I talked about with very many people because 1) the privacy issue involving other members of my family, and 2) it's just such a depressing subject and it tends to stop conversations cold. It's not that I don't trust people to understand, it's more like I've been down the road so many times before that it's often less stressful to not dwell on it. I needed some parts of my life, some relationships, that I could escape to, where this wasn't an issue. (More true before I took the test, as you can imagine.) That said, my discussions with Sue & Joe, who urged me to take the test, contributed a lot to me finally deciding to do it back in late '97. For that I was grateful, especially considering how it turned out. Living under something like this brings a whole new meaning to compartmentalizing your life. Hi, Miles – thanks! Yeah, it’s not the kind of thing I talked about with very many people because 1) the privacy issue involving other members of my family, and 2) it’s just such a depressing subject and it tends to stop conversations cold. It’s not that I don’t trust people to understand, it’s more like I’ve been down the road so many times before that it’s often less stressful to not dwell on it. I needed some parts of my life, some relationships, that I could escape to, where this wasn’t an issue. (More true before I took the test, as you can imagine.) That said, my discussions with Sue & Joe, who urged me to take the test, contributed a lot to me finally deciding to do it back in late ‘97. For that I was grateful, especially considering how it turned out. Living under something like this brings a whole new meaning to compartmentalizing your life.

]]> By: Miles http://www.flasshe.com/2004/02/19/lifted-curse/comment-page-1/#comment-21 Miles Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.flasshe.com/?p=21#comment-21 Rog - no need to 'splain, friend, and I said what I did not because I felt left out, but because I felt bad that you'd had this hanging over your life for so long.<br /> <br /> It's good not to have to explain every little thing to everybody or have to put up with even more "how are you doing?" sort of questions. And while compartmentalization is a strain, it's also necessary - and underrated IMO. People like to act like it's somehow being false or unfeeling, but done in the right measure, it's also known as <I>coping</I>, dammit.<br /> <br /> And hey, you fixed that thing where my e-mail addy was showing in that weird way (probably caused by me typing in an extra character or something)! Cool! Rog – no need to ’splain, friend, and I said what I did not because I felt left out, but because I felt bad that you’d had this hanging over your life for so long.

It’s good not to have to explain every little thing to everybody or have to put up with even more "how are you doing?" sort of questions. And while compartmentalization is a strain, it’s also necessary – and underrated IMO. People like to act like it’s somehow being false or unfeeling, but done in the right measure, it’s also known as coping, dammit.

And hey, you fixed that thing where my e-mail addy was showing in that weird way (probably caused by me typing in an extra character or something)! Cool!

]]> By: Lorrie http://www.flasshe.com/2004/02/19/lifted-curse/comment-page-1/#comment-22 Lorrie Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.flasshe.com/?p=21#comment-22 Rog, that is wonderful to hear! Even more so because now there are three kids who don't have to worry about it. Great news for you and your family. Rog, that is wonderful to hear! Even more so because now there are three kids who don’t have to worry about it. Great news for you and your family.

]]> By: patty http://www.flasshe.com/2004/02/19/lifted-curse/comment-page-1/#comment-23 patty Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.flasshe.com/?p=21#comment-23 :D whew!<br /> that IS good news!<br /> nOw you can smile<br /> easier and laugh longer with us my good friend!<br /> xoxoxoxoxoxo :D whew!
that IS good news!
nOw you can smile
easier and laugh longer with us my good friend!
xoxoxoxoxoxo

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